written by Daimion on 2004-Dec-07.
We have all experienced the joys of online communication, where we communicate with friends, family and meet new people from near and far without leaving the comfort of our homes or offices. There is a growing trend for people in relationships to create intimate relations through cyberspace, this includes; cyber sex, e-mail and cheating via on-line chats, this is called Online Infidelity/Cyber affair. A survey done by MSNBC and Elle Magazine of people using the internet found that 10 percent of women and 19 percent of men, when online say they are single although they are not. Another study conducted by Psychologist Dr. Beatriz Mileham showed that approximately 30 percent of cyber affairs end up in a real-world affair. These online relationships start as innocently as, â€œHow are you?â€ and can escalate from there to "are you spending the night?â€.
The number of victims of Cyber Affair is on the rise, that is why I must share with you three Tell-Tale Signs that may be present if your partner (spouse) is having a Cyber affair, they are; (1) a change in your partnerâ€™s sleep patterns (2) a demand for privacy when using the PC and (3) ignored household chores. I will now explore these signs in detail.
- (1) Change in your partnerâ€™s sleep patterns - Chat rooms and meeting places for cyber sex don't heat up until late at night, so the cheating partner will tend to stay up late to be a part of the action. Often, the partner suddenly begins coming to bed in the early-morning hours, and may leap out of bed an hour or two earlier in the mornings and bolt to the computer for a pre-work quickie.
- (2) A demand for privacy when using the PC- With cyber affair cheaters usually search for greater privacy and secrecy surrounding their computer usage. The computer may be moved from a visible place to a secluded corner, password may be changed, and all online activities conducted in secrecy. If interrupted when online, the cheating partner may react with anger, defensiveness or quickly close the pages.
- (3) Ignored household chores - When on-line time increases, household chores often go undone. That's not automatically a sign of a cyber affair, but in a relationship those dirty dishes, piles of laundry, and un-mowed lawns might indicate that someone else is competing for your partnerâ€™s attention. When your partner begins to invest more time and energy on-line and fails to keep up their end of the household bargain, it could signal that an on-line relationship is going on.