Olawunmi Esan: Sex & the Single Fellow It’s not a need for compatibility that drives us to premarital sex, it is indiscipline and an unwillingness to put our bodies under control. We let our bodies that we should control, take over and control us. There have been instances where people have great sex lives before marriage and upon getting married, their sex lives go downhill. There are people who pretend to enjoy sex with their partners just to get married, and later begin to display a strong distaste for sex in marriage.